Post Master General
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Bowling Green, VA
I Ride: '09 ZX6R
I've been married for 30 years, and I still can't follow my wife's thought process worth a d@mn. I would have to look at this through the perspective of my gender, age, and experience...... as such, I can't call BS with any authority. If she is accusing this a$$hat of a crime, doesn't he have a right to face that in court? Could he not counter sue for defamation of character?
Do I have any reason to presume this did not occur? Is there reasonable doubt? Does inappropriate touching have a statute of limitations?
I understand that the psychology of a situation like this is never, ever, simple and straightforward. Who knows what goes through an individual's mind at a time like this. The cultural baggage that might make this seem impossible to overcome is significant.
As Snazzy points out -- is this scenario being used as an excuse to mask another problem? At what cost to the person so accused? And to the person making the accusation?
What defines a criminal act? The definition I was given many years ago during a stint in military law enforcement for this sort of crime was, 'penetration, however slight'. As this is all hearsay, that's a very difficult legal standard to demonstrate, especially years after the fact. No evidence of a crime does not mean a crime has not been committed -- but it makes it seriously difficult to prosecute.
When does someone become complicit to a criminal act? If you don't report such an incident immediately, if you don't object to the behavior immediately..... is there some burden on the afflicted? Scratching, bruising, other evidence that can be washed away...... there has to be some responsibility to defend one's self at some point. Whether that is with physical violence, or simply having the fortitude to stand up and be counted is a very difficult and personal decision.
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