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post #46 of 55 Old 08-18-2015, 04:53 PM
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Very sad. RIP....
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post #47 of 55 Old 08-18-2015, 08:20 PM
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Praying for strength and comfort for you and your family in Jesus name dude.
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Flex, I remember when my dad died (I disliked him as a youth, but not only came to like him, but had him as my Best Man when I got married). Everyone were complimenting me on how strong I was, how put together I was, how strong I was for my mom.

Slightly longer than a year later it hit me like a tonne of bricks. Every time I'd drive anywhere I'd start crying (I'm usually rather stoic), just uncontrollably. I had not really come to terms w/jack$h!+. My best advise is give yourself all the time you need. It never gets easier; time heals absolutely nothing. You merely adjust your behaviour so as not to make others uncomfortable.

My dad died in 1995, I think about him every time I hear a good joke (I used to call him & tell him because he was a masterful joke teller); I think about him anytime I see a '67 Corvette roadster; a '66 Mustang 2+2; any BSA; any holiday decorations- year round. Whenever I see any James Bond, John Wayne, or "war movie" I feel a pang. I have a wonderful collection of tools: Mac, Snap-on, Klein, Craftsman. His name is engraved on all of the ones that once belonged to him. I do all my own maintainance - thus, he is literally with me every time I pick up one of his tools. He is never not with me.
I also lost my father but at a young age. I was only around 5, so was glad enough not to really know him and it didn't hit me. Life can be very cruel and overwhelming, one day your with somebody and the next day you're not. Kind of like if a bike or a car that you loved and cherished get's totaled or stolen.

It's hard to not build relationships and it's more tough to let them go. I don't understand why we build so closely to things in life when they can be lost with a snap of the fingers. Though I guess it's more about the journey than it is the end product.
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post #49 of 55 Old 08-18-2015, 11:26 PM
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So sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your family/ friends. RIP
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It's hard to not build relationships and it's more tough to let them go. I don't understand why we build so closely to things in life when they can be lost with a snap of the fingers. Though I guess it's more about the journey than it is the end product.
I am trained inScientific Methodology. What this means is I put my stock in the verifiable, I can conduct test procedures that lead me to a set of conclusions which are repeatable by others anywhere in the world and they will come to the exact same resultsI. I put very little stock in testimonials.

Why do I tell all of you this? It is because what you are struggling with is Faith. I'm not talking about narrow minded mental Luddite religious palaver. I'm referring to a belief in something you cannot touch, taste, smell, or touch. This is something that cannot be verified in the lab, let alone repeatable by others that will yield the exact same results.

Yes a belief system requires one to place their faith in such a manner. But what you're wrestling with is faith in love. The tenuous aspect of relationships drives daggers of self-doubt, loathing, anxiety, hope, frustration, and undistilled joy within us - all of us.

As a primate, we are instinctually drawn into social structures. There are myriad reasons for this that I don't need to get into. And the basis for this is the family unit. Early social codifications - be they good, bad, ugly, eradic, incestuous, protective, nurturing, forgiving, and yes, loving.

And as Saint Paul reminded us, Love is the greatest gift. It's up to you to place your faith in the power (& yes, heartbreak) of love. That's what makes the vast risks worth it. Best o' luck in this venture.
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you know alot of us (im guilty of this myself) think that we risk our asses and because of the inherent tendecy for usually minimal collateral damage, that it is at only our risk.i had a brother killed in an auto accident when i was 14 and im still guilty of forgetting that there are all sorts of family, friends and assorted loved ones that get to pick up the pieces when we push things too far. i am sorry your brother was killed and i wish your family the best and hope the process of grieving is as painless as possible. it is a good reminder for me personally to always remember we are not alone and to always treat family and loved ones as if we will not see them again and to act accordingly
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Man, that is such horrible news.

Condolences to you and your family.
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god bless you and your family. be safe
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I'm always sorry to hear anything like that. These things are definitely dangerous and can claim you very quickly. My heart goes out to you and your family. Just remember he was doing what he liked and didn't go from some very painful cancer or disease. Personally I would take fun and quick over prolonged pain and suffering
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Sorry to hear about this..very sad.
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